{"id":1343,"date":"2015-08-17T16:16:41","date_gmt":"2015-08-17T16:16:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/?p=1343"},"modified":"2020-02-09T22:11:20","modified_gmt":"2020-02-09T22:11:20","slug":"divorce-lawyer-marriage-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/2015\/08\/articles\/guest-blog-posts\/divorce-lawyer-marriage-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"Guest Blog Post by Stacy Rocheleau, Esq"},"content":{"rendered":"

Family law attorney Stacy Rocheleau with RIGHT Lawyers<\/a> has written a guest blog post for my clients on how to stay married.\u00a0 Thanks, Stacy for the great advice:<\/p>\n

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Divorce Lawyer Marriage Tips<\/strong><\/p>\n

by\u00a0Stacy Rocheleau, Esq.
\n\u00a0Learning how to have a better marriage from a divorce lawyer might seem a little odd. \u00a0 My job is to end marriages, not keep them together. \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

But, as a divorce lawyer, I see the myriad of reasons marriages break down. \u00a0There are the big ones – cheating, drug abuse, \u00a0or domestic violence. \u00a0 And, there are the not so big ones \u2013 over spending, issues with the in-laws, or growing apart. \u00a0<\/em>
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\n Being a first responder to these divorce battles has strengthened my own 22-year marriage. \u00a0Seeing first-hand the issues causing divorces has provided me insight into how to strengthen a marriage. \u00a0Here are a few tips I have learned.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Make Time For Each Other<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Finding time is hard. \u00a0Our days and weekends are filled with work, carting kids to activities, helping with homework, meals, and housework. \u00a0We are so busy running around, by the end of the week my husband probably wouldn\u2019t notice if I grew a mustache!<\/em><\/p>\n

Remember how much time you spent together when dating? \u00a0Whether or not you had kids, your life was still busy, but you made time for each other because it was important. \u00a0So make it important again. \u00a0Date nights are great. \u00a0We often go to Starbucks in the morning for coffee. \u00a0Spending time together, uninterrupted by kids or work will strengthen the marriage.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Keep Intimacy Alive<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

This does not necessarily mean having sex three times a day, every day, although most men would be fine with that! \u00a0Couples usually have different needs for intimacy. \u00a0One spouse may like holding hands while walking through Walmart, while another needs frequent sex. \u00a0Have honest conversations about your needs. \u00a0Come to an understanding of what fulfills your spouse. \u00a0A marriage without intimacy will often result in a spouse seeking it from someone else. \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Count The Money<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Financial issues are a big reason behind divorce. \u00a0This isn\u2019t just about not having money. \u00a0It\u2019s about participating in the money together. \u00a0One spouse may feel they are being \u201ccontrolled,\u201d another may feel their partner doesn\u2019t participate in the budgeting. \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Couples need to get on the same page and understand how much you make combined each month, how much your monthly expenses are, who is going to pay the bills, and how much is left over for discretionary expenses. \u00a0Sit down together to work on budget and a process for paying the bills. \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Be Kind<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

This seems like a no-brainer, but we all know someone who will treat strangers nicer than they treat their spouse! \u00a0Your spouse is someone you chose to live your life with, someone you supposedly love and are best friends with. \u00a0So be kind, be forgiving, and show compassion and empathy. \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Have Your Own Interests<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

You are married, not surgically connected. \u00a0It is natural to have interests outside of your spouse. \u00a0Maintaining your own hobbies, activities, and own set of friends is healthy. \u00a0 If there is a trust issue, talk about it and get it resolved. \u00a0How can they miss you if you are always around?\u00a0 Even a short absence of a few hours does make the heart grow fonder. <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Family law attorney Stacy Rocheleau with RIGHT Lawyers has written a guest blog post for my clients on how to stay married.\u00a0 Thanks, Stacy for the great advice:   Divorce Lawyer Marriage Tips by\u00a0Stacy Rocheleau, Esq. \u00a0Learning how to have a better marriage from a divorce lawyer might seem a little odd. \u00a0 My job … Continue reading Guest Blog Post by Stacy Rocheleau, Esq<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[88,86],"tags":[204,315],"class_list":["post-1343","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-divorce-attorney","category-guest-blog-posts","tag-divorce","tag-marriage"],"acf":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1343","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1343"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1343\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1690,"href":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1343\/revisions\/1690"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1343"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1343"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jhwlawoffice.com\/nevada-workers-comp-law-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1343"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}